leid.

Olete tundnud sellist heureka tunnet vahel, et kui on mõni asi elus, millest te päris täpselt aru ei saa, et miks te nii tunnete ja siis leiate midagi, mis selle ära seletab?

Ma leidsin ühe artikli armastusest. See seletab, miks 4 aastat pole ma tundnud päris "seda". Ainult osake sellest siis siia:

Think back to your first "real" love; the one that made you feel complete and whole just being in their presence. The one that you never questioned was the right one for you because you simply "knew" they were. Very likely this is the one who started this whole fireworks thing. This is the one who set our expectations so high.

I do believe that our first real love is always the most potent. It consumes us and everything else in its way, and it is G-L-O-R-I-O-U-S........no doubt about it. Yet with it usually comes that first heartache, and how gut-wrenching and life consuming is that? This is the time that I believe is the beginning of the end of our loving in a natural and unencumbered way.

This first heartbreak changes us. We, at the very core of ourselves have just experienced something so deeply profound through this experience that we can't help but become altered to one degree or another. When you think about, it's not really that different than any other life experience, in that we are changed in the end because of having experienced it all.

So as we continue to look for that same feeling in a new love, we can't find it because the way in which we give and receive love has been altered permanently. I believe that even if the "perfect" person were to stumble upon us, we couldn't love them like we loved the first time, because we are now different people, who love in a very different way.

Does that mean we love our new love any less? I don't believe so. We just love them differently. Just because it doesn't feel as powerful, doesn't mean it isn't. Perhaps through the wisdom of our first love we learn that we would rather love long-ly, than completely. And perhaps we are more hesitant in the beginning, and we can't be as vulnerable and open as we were with the first love, which means we can't feel the same intensity as we did then. It's just no longer coded within us.

I believe that the earth is constructed as a wonderful teaching planet precisely because of the emotional range that is possible here; thus, through experience and maturity our emotional range changes too. Not because we want it to necessarily, but because it also ages and matures with our experiences.

So we have to learn that our definition of love has changed, and we must adjust our previous thoughts of how love would feel in order to ever really love someone again

Vot selline lõik, keda huvitab, mis muud seal kirjas oli, siis see on siin:

http://www.amystic.com/whatislove.html

Ma ei ole nõus kõigega, mis seal räägitakse, sellepärast ma ei tahtnud tervet artiklit panna. Pluss see on ikka suht pikk ka.

Aga see oli minu jaoks päris hea leid. Kes tahab minust natuke rohkem aru saada, siis see vast aitaks kaasa. Enne ei osanud isegi seletada. Või oskasin, aga see kukkus kohmakalt välja. Eks ma olen tegelikult alati nii arvanud millegipärast! :)

Sellesse artiklisse saaks ka Jumala paigutada. Kuigi see on ilmalik artikkel. Selles artiklis räägib üks naine ka sellest, et ta ei usu, et on olemas ainult üks soul-mate. Et neid, kes meile sobiks, on mitu ja sa pead lihtsalt tegema oma valiku. Ja ma arvan,et see on see, kus Jumal tuleb mängu. Kui me teeme nö vea, kui me ei vali seda täiuslikku inimest meie jaoks või valime liiga vara kellegi teise, siis Jumal paneb ka selle abielu töötama. Inimlikult me muidugi suudame ikka teha vigu ja vahel see polegi ainult meie kätes. Aga Jumal armastab meid liiga palju, et lasta meil selles praadida. Ta tahab, et me oleks õnnelikud. Vot.

kell on 12.21.

Chocolate.